ABOUT ME

I'm not someone's puppet, so ...

I'm not addicted to having friends. 

Often others are more dependent on my friendship than I am on theirs.

But if you can accept that not everyone is exactly the same, cloned from the same person so you can have an extremely good friend in me. But it also takes a lot of yourself to reach the goal.

You can not control me.
Do not even try, if you want to keep my friendship.

You can not take advantage of me.
If you try, you'll surely lose my friendship.

You can not buy or bribe me.
My soul is not for sale, not even for all the money in the world.

You may not photograph me

And post my picture on social media without first asking permission. Most of the time I say no, it depends on which forum it is about and why it is important to you to show my photo. Ignoring this is a sure way to lose my friendship.

Most of people do not understand how dangerous e.g. Facebook is. All images, all text, everything you post on your Facebook page is the property of Facebook and they can do whatever they want with it. And my photos should not be included in their sources of income. In addition, the government, the police and others can see everything you do on the Internet, they can misunderstand texts you wrote for fun, they can take apart your texts and put them together as they want, so they can accuse you of things you did not do. And you cannot escape if you have written the text on e.g. Facebook. Images can be sold or modified and distributed to others, who pay for the images. And since every IP number on the internet is its own forum, you will never find and be able to delete anything you have uploaded on social media. Even if you delete your own Facebook page, everything is already stored on Facebook's servers.

I never buy prostitutes.
So do not expect me to pay for friendship or relationship.

If you are out of money, I will help you.
But only when I see myself that you need help, not after begging. And just help for YOU to survive. Not for everyone in your family or all your friends and not for luxus thing you only want because you can, if other pay for it.
And only when I know that you have done everything you can to solve your problem yourself first.
And of course only if I have the opportunity, my own expenditure always come first.

If you beg or nag for money or things, you will not only lose my help, but also my friendship.

If you have other problem, I will help you if I can.

Everyone can make mistakes.

I value civil courage very highly. Always honesty, even if it can cause discomfort to oneself. Not many people have it. But they who shows me civil courage has a sure friend in me forever. If you do something wrong, tell me honestly what happened, and I forgive you. But if you're trying to get away with a lie, I'll never forgive you. And lies always come to the surface when you think you are safe, there is always someone gossiping. But if you yourself tell directly, openly and honestly that you have done something stupid, then I forgive you.

So I give everyone at least one more chance if you are honestly. And I expect you to do the same for me. You can not judge others if you are not perfect yourself and no one is perfect.

If I hear gossip or rumors about someone.

I do not continue gossip. I'm talking to the person the gossip is about to get the truth from the core.

If I borrow money.
From someone, I always pay back at the agreed time.

If anyone borrows money from me.
I expect the same from them.
If they wants to continue the loan for a while longer, they must still pay back when settled
time and then ask to continue borrowing until a new agreed time.
This is to give me the opportunity to say no if I need the money myself.
If you abuse it, you can forget about borrowing again and you put our friendship to a serious test.

And I never demand interest from friends.

If I get something.
For example, food, beer or something like that, I always give back as soon as I can
and then with more than I got. And I expect that from others as well.

Do you choose to be unpleasant to me.
So I'm at least twice as nasty to you.

Trust must be earned.
That's why I do not trust anyone, least of all the one who says I can trust them. I only trust the one who shows in action that I can trust them. He who declares his trust in words tries to go the short way to achieve the trust he deserves, and it should be extra careful to trust.

You will know if I do not like you.

There is a big difference between not liking someone or being enemies. If for some reason I don't like you,  we can still sit at the same table and have a nice talk and laugh together. But if you offer me something, I refuse to touch it. If friends offer me, I always take some even if I don't want it.

Something that can affect whether I like you or not is how you behave.

Are you pushy, don't take no for an answer, touch me without informing me first, get too close when we're talking, do you lie to me, try to hide something, mock me, begging, accuse me of something that isn't true, you ask me about private things, or about my background, etc.

You will know if you are my enemy.

The enemy depends a little on what they have done to me or those closest to me. If the problem calls for retaliatory action, I'll wait a while until other people's eyes are directed away from me before yanking away the safe mat you're standing on. Meanwhile, I treat you like air, you're just not in my host anymore. But I'm not much for revenge, so unless it's something very serious, you can get away with not existing in my world anymore.

Something that can affect you to have made yourself my enemy is if you do something stupid to me or my loved ones. If you spread false accusations, endanger, steal, abuse, exploit, etc

I have a hard time for people who think they are better than others

Because of power and money and therefore expect benefits.
Especially as it is the poor who feed the rich.

I live alone

Because it's hard to find anyone in Southeast Asia who thinks like me, with the same need for freedom. I'm not the jealous type, and neither can my partner be. Because you can't own other people. They must be free, but it is the responsibility of both towards each other to take responsibility that no jealousy arises. The one who feels locked in does everything to escape, but the one who is given freedom has no reason to escape and stays behind. But in a relationship without responsibility, contradictions, jealousy are created and the relationship rarely lasts long. Therefore, I live alone to find the right, someone who understands me, someone who can take care of himself and who understands what true love is.
So for a relationship to work for a long time, independence, faithfulness, honesty and responsibility are the most important things for both to always keep in mind. If both are careful about this, it gives room for a lot of freedom in the relationship.
It is important partly for honesty but also for not giving your partner unwanted diseases.

I know I'm considered tricky, weird and difficult to understand.

This sometimes leads to others not wanting to hang out with me. It's okay, I don't need people who demand that everyone be the same as themselves in order to socialize.

This may be perceived as a demand from me, but it is wrong. I like all people who are kind to me. Only in a relationship is it good if we have similar life philosophies, because then we socialize more and closer.

If I get tired of a "friend" or even "family" who have be bad for me.

I disappear from this within a few hundredths of a second.
And if we get this far, there is no going back.

Are you trying to contact me?
It's next to impossible. Only those I approve can contact me, and they are few. Not even all friends have that opportunity.

I avoid social media for the longest time, but if I use it, it is with the greatest possible security and I never share anything personal. Companies like Facebook, Google and the like, make big money selling our souls, but my soul is not for sale. If you thought that all people on earth see the same reality at the same time on internet, then you are completely wrong. These great social media companies create your reality and can manipulate you to do as they please. For example, creating targeted advertising with a buy guarantee, or making you believe in fake information, or to manipulate you into voting "right" in an election, etc., etc.

So the fastest way to get in touch with me, if you don't have any contact information, is from the contact page on this website. But to get a reply you need to show me your email address and make yourself interesting enough for me to reply.

The Internet came too early.

I have always argued that the internet and AI is at least 10,000 years too early for the majority of people.
Human brains are still the same as Stone Age man, the only thing that differs between today's people and Stone Age man is that things around us have changed. And it has gone fast, only 20 years back in time had no one need for either Facebook or Google and 30 years back had no need to be contactable 24/7. For only 200 years back, there was no need to be able to travel all over the world with ease.

Today's man has been around for 300,000 years. But all the current development has taken place over the last 250 years. During the 299,750 years before industrialism began, we stood and trampled on the same point without anything revolutionary happening. But ordinary people still believe that they understand everything, while heading for a catastrophic future, due to premature industrial development.